Family Issues
My wife has a cousin whose father abandoned her. I don’t begin to try to understand the dynamics of the situation but my mother-in-law’s brother left his wife and his children when they were young. He left his family and remarried (a couple of times I think). There were a lot of conversations between my wife, her mom and her cousin, and I was surprised at how much of it drifted back to my wife’s uncle.
I believe my wife’s cousin is a Christian, so I was surprised (scared actually), at some of the negative comments. I heard a few times that he would have to answer to God for his behavior.
This is true, as it is for each and every one of us, but the implication was that he had gotten away with something and needed to pay. I carefully (very carefully) chose my comments to try to defuse some of the emotions behind the comments.
“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye.” - Luke 6:37-42 ESV
“Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need. Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” - Ephesians 4:25-32
“Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.” - Matthew 18:21-22
Forgiveness is not for the other person, it is for you. It is a way for you to let go of the hurt and focus on God (what’s important).
Praise God that he came and died for my sins.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” - John 3:16-17 ESV
